Dr. Sus

Aug 13, 2025 23:43

I mean, I understand the topic but it doesn't matter because most people aren't going to reveal who they truly are for 2 years anyways.

But to answer your question, I've heard women hate ny question, but I ask, "What are you into? What are you passionate about, what moves you?"

I might not ask in such a lame way, but I think that question says a lot about a person, and if the answer is, "Idk... like...idk...? Hangout ans stuff?" I'm out. If you can't answer a simple question like that, chances are good you can have an intellectually stimulating convo. And if someone can, or gets deep about who they are, I'm in. Not to mention, if you have nothing that you care about, f**k off, you probably spend too much time on the gram.

I have another thing, but I'll wait. Good topic btw.

Lexi_poo

Aug 14, 2025 00:32

Dr. Sus you speak like a woman, it's mostly women that asks questions like that. They are boring, annoying, and frankly you even admitted that people don't reveal who they truly are so it's such a dud question. Believe it or not, it's absolutely boring to sit there a list things about yourself. It's also a completely unnatural way of talking. Nothing feels more forced when you're put on the spot to start firing off randoms facts about yourself.

"i like reading" i like this... i like that.... oh i really enjoy this.... It's lame as hell.

I don't think anybody actually enjoys these kinds of conversations, even the people who asks these kinds of questions, they just aren't very fun or interesting people in my opinion which is why their lack of interpersonal skills forces them to ask you to do an interview at the attempt to find some kind of mutual interest to give themselves something to talk about.

I won't say what i personally want to find out from a conversation but what i will say is, you should treat a conversation as an opportunity to have a fun experience, and if you and this person are interested enough in each other and your vibes match, then the conversation will be fun and flow naturally. If you're like Miss Sus over here and have nothing to say so you attempt to pressure the other person to give satisfactory answers.... then enjoy dying alone. HAHAHA seriously, i want you all to say it out loud, "What moves you?".... God it comes across fake and cringey as f**k. Brb gotta go vomit.

WaveFormReactor

Aug 14, 2025 01:01

Ah yes, the classic 'I’m not fun, so no one else should be' argument. A timeless hit from the socially self-sabotaging. Bold of you to critique interpersonal skills while delivering a monologue that reads like a diary entry from someone allergic to dialogue. You’ve managed to insult curiosity, conversation, and connection—all while proving none of them are your strong suit.

Lexi_poo

Aug 14, 2025 01:07

You look like a tin of baked beans, you're in no position to diagnose what my "strong suits" are.

WaveFormReactor

Aug 14, 2025 01:34

@Mercurius Mesmerize Sometimes just letting the other person share what they will, on their own, in their own time, reveals some useful information. But it's hard to gain insight, particularly online. Usually things like traits are revealed in subtle ways—though some people are impressively consistent in broadcasting theirs, even unintentionally.

Dr. Sus

Aug 14, 2025 06:09

Ok then. I am capable of having an organic convo. But what I find is most people these days, are not. Most people don't ask a god damn question about the other person, so back when I was dating, I'd have to ask them something...And maybe you didn't read the part about how I don't ask it in a lame ass way like that, maybe you were too busy thinking about what YOU were going to say about it. Great convo skills... and my god, what big hopes I had wishing someone would be into something interesting or unique some day...

lokiinlove

Aug 14, 2025 09:12

To have a connection, and to have real conversation unlike working from home when it's just me and my cats

Being isolated, you fear losing the art of conversation, and chatting on forums doesn't really count

Lexi_poo

Aug 14, 2025 10:48

I did read your comment, and yes i get you said "not in a lame way" but the points i was making i stand by, i feel like when a conversation isn't flowing, people fall back to asking these open end questions that aren't enjoyable. If the conversation isn't flowing, then just end it and move onto the next in my opinion.

Lexi_poo

Aug 14, 2025 10:50

Because when 2 people are enjoying each other, and both are making effort, then you don't need to try to come up with ways to make the conversation flow.

WaveFormReactor

Aug 14, 2025 11:32

There’s merit in that view, but truth rarely resides in absolutes. Conversation isn’t merely a skill—it’s a dance between comfort and vulnerability. Some people speak fluently in silence, not because they lack depth, but because the world hasn’t yet earned their trust. Social awkwardness isn’t a flaw—it’s often the echo of introspection, of minds tuned to subtler frequencies, so to speak. Patience, becomes a kind of wisdom here. We are not all wired to connect instantly.

Lexi_poo

Aug 14, 2025 11:48

Well Waveform... you're kind of proving my point and agreeing with me... but you jumped in hostile because you didn't like how i delivered my message. That's why i disagreed with Dr Sus, just because someone isn't interested in you, or doesn't enjoy listing off things doesn't mean they can't have an intellectual conversation or have desires and passions.

Like i said before, when you put yourself in that situation, do you really enjoy sitting there and listing of what you enjoy for the 100th person in a row that you have spoken to? Unless someone is some crazy narcissist then i don't think anybody finds that stimulating. Organically finding out what people are into is better. A good example is, i hate when people ask me what music i'm into, i find that boring, but if someone asks me, what i'm doing, i reply that i am listening to music or a specific band, then you can go into the conversation of "oh i like that band, they are similar to this band, i'm really into this band lately" and so on. You'll get a much better response from people when conversations are lead more in that type of direction.

It's like... comon... i just met you 10 minutes ago, i don't want to talk about my deepest passions in life.

SereneSolanine

Aug 14, 2025 13:52

Dr sus having girl problems was not on my 2025 bingo card

WaveFormReactor

Aug 14, 2025 15:09

I’m also saying—there’s nothing wrong with asking simple questions. Sometimes, simplicity is honesty. It really depends on the person. Not everyone is fluent in charm; some speak plainly, directly, without pretense. And that’s okay. Patience with that kind of sincerity can be surprisingly rewarding. But of course, not everyone sees it that way. To each their own. We’re all entitled to our preferences, our instincts, our truths.

I was responding to unwarranted hostility and delusions of grandeur. Occasionally, reality needs to be reintroduced, firmly.

Psychopatrish

Aug 14, 2025 15:33

Less is more

emperorroberto

Aug 15, 2025 10:57

I kind of get getting tired of talking about the same sh-t.I mean I talk about what I do.I also use yo talk about personal sh-t but that gets to where you're tired of talking about it.Idk?

Mephisto

Aug 15, 2025 12:05

I'm f**ked up, so everything.

Emu?

Aug 15, 2025 17:43

What in the f**k did I just read

Dr. Sus

Aug 15, 2025 20:18

*rubs brow in annoyance*

You're a f**king retard poo. You're taking one comment and automatically assuming thee entire context of a psuedo fictitious scenario. Annnnnnnnnd I'm done here. Why do I feel the need to explain myself? I gotta remember that next time. You do you poo. Good luck champ.

💖 Neon™ Waifu 💖

Aug 15, 2025 20:20

This is why I have him blocked, it's peaceful without the whiff of poo everywhere

emperorroberto

Aug 17, 2025 06:33

Sometimes you get a girl to talk if you just say very little like if a girl has red hair I just write Paramore.

Eoten

Aug 17, 2025 08:38

Dating apps are a waste of time if I'm going to be blunt. The reality is, a rapidly growing percentage of "active members" are just scammers, catfishers, and now, bots and AI. Of the people who exist, most the women are over 35 with children. Is it really worth all that effort to get through all the bots and BS for a chance at some expired leftovers?