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I think we’ve probably all encountered the self-proclaimed “nice guy” who is, in fact, not nice at all. If you really don’t know what I’m talking about, you can go to r/niceguys on reddit and sift through all of that material for awhile. This is the guy who claims that girls don’t like him because he’s “nice” and that girls only like assholes who treat them badly and that “nice guys finish last.” This is, in my opinion, the biggest red flag of all. And I just want to talk about how exhausted I am with these men.
So, I go on a date with a guy that my friend set me up with. She says he’s “nice.” Okay, I figure I’ll give it a shot. So I meet up with him, and right off the bat he says something about how girls don’t normally like “nice guys like him.” I know exactly how the rest of this conversation will go, but I ask him to clarify. Immediately he’s listing off reasons why he never gets the girl - he’s not good looking enough, he’s not exciting, he’s too nice. At one point during this conversation, he starts CRYING and talking about how he’s going to die alone. Let me remind you, I am a girl who is currently on a date with him, trying to get to know him and showing interest in him - he sees none of this. Instead of getting to know me, he has wasted our entire date whining about other women and ignoring the woman directly in front of him. I find this pretty freaking bizarre. I’m just going to fast forward through the rest of this date and tell you it involved more crying, more complaining - all while telling me over and over how “nice” he is. Dude, you are NOT NICE! You have just wasted the whole evening bitching and ignoring the girl who is showing interest in you!!! What the hell?
I got a weird apology letter the next day explaining why we should be together because he’ll be the perfect man for me. Okay. No thank you.
Now, this just happened again where I’m talking to someone, making an effort to get to know them, and they spend the conversation doing the following things:
1) listing off reasons why I shouldn’t like him
2) calling himself a “nice guy” while not giving me a single reason to believe that he is, in fact, nice.
3) declaring that he will die alone.
Sigh. I just...I can’t. I’m exhausted. Dude, you just completely blew it, and you didn’t even notice that I was trying to give you a chance. Why do men act like this? It’s baffling.
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Deleted User Jul 20, 2019 21:45 At least with douche bags you know what you're gonna get. Nice guys are like a box of cats, you never know which one's going to claw your face off. |
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Deleted User Jul 20, 2019 22:06
Where is the nice guy spray? These dudes are everywhere! |
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Deleted User Jul 20, 2019 22:09
I think this is a fresh topic, nice and toasty. I like it! |
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Deleted User Jul 20, 2019 22:19 ^ that exactly, They get all worked up mostly over nothing. |
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Deleted User Jul 21, 2019 00:04 There's nice girls, they're just 400 pounds! Lol |
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Deleted User Jul 21, 2019 00:34 I'm a nice guy! But if you look up best of nice girl and nice guy... I find being open to all things helps. |
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Deleted User Jul 21, 2019 00:36
But i did get to be apart of a nice guy moment, speaking to a girl this fellow comes on says to her i'm evil toxic and he's nice. |
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Deleted User Jul 21, 2019 01:47
I'm really hoping you end up 400 pounds Sunny as your coming across perfect like your s**t dont stink. Those who like to criticise better be perfect or people look for their faults. |
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Jul 21, 2019 02:17 He sounds like that hes not ready for a relationship or any for that matter. if he's crying like a bitch about his exs on his date. |
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Deleted User Jul 21, 2019 02:32
Lol I'm close to it, I'm actually over 300. No joke! I'm no criticism here. Girls of bigger size sometimes get jelous of smaller girls and body shame them to comfort themselves while driving away men by acting all Looney. |
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Deleted User Jul 21, 2019 02:34 in this situation, you say to him, 'lets see what emoji band is playing tonight" |
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Deleted User Jul 21, 2019 02:36 Emo, I mean |
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Deleted User Jul 21, 2019 03:36
I don't think there is anything wrong with showing your feelings, just don't think it's really suited on a date. |
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Deleted User Jul 21, 2019 13:45
Sorry Sunny, it came across you were bashing and not saying it happens. |
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Deleted User Jul 21, 2019 14:30 Ahahaha, you should of just sold the dork your bathwater |
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Deleted User Jul 22, 2019 02:27
NOTICE ME I'M STILL A NICE GUY YOU ARSEHOLES! I mean i act and put forward this total air of i'm perfect girls should love me. I put in tokens of being nice and being a friend to you and no s*x.. WHY NO s*x! I like anime and i am totes a gorean so there is that.. |
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Deleted User Jul 22, 2019 11:58
^oh, I'd go on a date with you, Brony, if you were not on the other side of the planet. |
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Jul 22, 2019 20:30 some people have it some people dont. thats why its better on your ones like most of us mwahahahaa |
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Deleted User Jul 22, 2019 22:41 Yeah, this type of person is a meme now, usually characterized as overweight neckbearded fedora wearing nerds. They definitely exist and I can’t say I have any sympathy for them. At some point, a person has to put their past of being bullied or picked on in high school behind them and stop taking out on everyone else. Fück these whiny losers, grow up and get real. |
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Deleted User Jul 22, 2019 23:01 But neckbeards are all the rage now!! Boo to all that can't grow them! For they are the optimum of nice guy's and all female's should quiver in their presence!! |
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Deleted User Jul 23, 2019 00:27 We had that trololol kid not long ago dozer who was using all the incel buzz words. that goth girls are sought after... and many things that made this almost a brony cringe. |
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Jul 23, 2019 06:52 That’s why we date. Weed out people that are crap to find someone that isn’t. You will have 99% failure until you strike that 1% you like. Rinse, repeat. |
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Deleted User Jul 23, 2019 10:35 ^we'll yeah... |
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Jul 23, 2019 19:36 Anyone who uses the word "friendzone" in anything other than a tone of irony is definitely one to watch out for... |
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Deleted User Jul 27, 2019 00:18
Maybe it's just me, but in my modest experience, those who call themselves nice guys are usually not. They are either big babies looking for a Mother figure, (Mummy says they are nice), or self absorbed and can only think about themselves. I'm generation X, and I still admire chivalry, so maybe I'm not the right person to comment. Shrugs |
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Deleted User Jul 27, 2019 12:51
Sounds like you dodged a bullet |
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Deleted User Aug 19, 2019 01:29 I have never read a dumber rant by a more full of shït dope than that. Congratulations on winning that dubious distinction, fake tough guy. |
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Deleted User Aug 19, 2019 03:05
Gru... So the thing is.... YOU made the above comment... WHICH lead me to read the comment above it... Which lead my coffee to cooling off slightly WHICH is bad. Oh wait its empty now.... |
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Deleted User Aug 19, 2019 10:58 Rapacious you should put that side of you in your profile so people know what a d**k you are, that's if they can read it, ever heard if paragraphs? |
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Deleted User Aug 19, 2019 14:10 Come on now, everyone knows manifestos about what an asshole you are are s*xy as fück to all the ladies. |
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Deleted User Aug 19, 2019 17:36 I didn’t believe any of it, hence why I called you a FAKE tough guy. You should type less, especially because nothing you say is very interesting. |
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Deleted User Aug 19, 2019 18:03 Ah, but what if it's a double bluff and his second statement is the lie? |
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Deleted User Aug 19, 2019 18:19 Tl;dr |
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Deleted User Aug 19, 2019 18:33 Every time he logs on, he has two new pages worth of profile visitors. Most unbelievable thing he said. Buddy, there are two pages worth of active members in the whole world on this fückin thing, you kidding me? That’s hilarious. |
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Deleted User Aug 19, 2019 18:46
Hmm skim read that. |
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Deleted User Aug 19, 2019 19:41 Thanks for a brief description of the post. Too long to read. If he talks that much in person anone stop I'm amazed the women can stay awake. |
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Aug 20, 2019 01:35 Again too long didn't read. The first three sentences were enough to prevent me from wasting my time on that massive wall of text. |
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Deleted User Aug 20, 2019 02:25
Winterkorss, I suspect your edge is just too sharp for this joint |
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Deleted User Aug 20, 2019 03:26 What did he say this time? is there a tl;dr version? man he's cool.... |
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Deleted User Aug 20, 2019 04:32 The profile is even better. I didn't know one could be so self absorbed they're an anti sponge. |
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Deleted User Aug 20, 2019 06:04 I laughed so hard i hurt myself. I still think he's cool. |
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Deleted User Aug 20, 2019 07:02 Not looking for any guys, so this nice guy won't be an issue, thanks. |
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Deleted User Aug 21, 2019 06:21
Welcome to modern-day narcissist society. This is me me me millennials, sorry if you are a millennial but wow have things changed over the last 30 or so years. You're on a date, he should be trying to impress you and treat you nice, in the old days this was called courting, not anymore, now with the advent of social media, Instagram and snap chat, we have now invented the obsessive narcissist. |
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Deleted User Aug 21, 2019 13:12 As much as that is a total “get off my lawn” type of comment, boy is it 100% true. |
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Deleted User Aug 21, 2019 21:13
I did have a guy cry on the our first meeting; and he wasn't a millennial. Some people are needing to have someone listen to them because they are going through something. And then there are some people who are in constant need for attention and it can be a form of manipulation-they may have histrionic traits. We won't what kinda person they are on the first encounter of a few hours and on top of that, it depends on how forthcoming a person is, and so on. People are complicated. And people like me who take on the humanities, find humans to be the most interesting of all creatures. Someone tried to tell me that wolves are more intelligent and interesting. I disagree. Humans are. And people who read fiction, write fiction, screenplays, actors, and so on are those who are interested in humans. Not to constantly hate them. |
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Deleted User Aug 21, 2019 21:18 oh s**t, there goes my crappy burn out writing again; I agree this time. Come on, bring it on! |
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Deleted User Aug 21, 2019 21:26
Dude sounds like he's going through some s**t and needs some support from friends to get his s**t straight. |
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Deleted User Aug 22, 2019 16:17
I couldn't be chewed to read all that bollocks, but I had a gander at the responses.... not like I can read anyway. |
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Deleted User Sep 17, 2019 11:17
In this modern dystopia of disconnected and superficial connection i think most of us are hoping for someone to help dispel our demons and heal the hurts we have accumulated. Some people know how to ask for that in a healthy way and some are just toxic. |
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Deleted User Sep 17, 2019 13:46 We have another dragging old and dead posts back to the top again. |
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Oct 12, 2019 18:31 nobody is all one thing, nice guys don't exist, we are all a product of the day and our situation. |
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Deleted User Oct 12, 2019 18:35
I used to be friends with a guy who would always lament/whinge that "nice guys always finish last", until I realised that he was a serial cheat and woman beater. |
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Deleted User Oct 19, 2019 00:34
INCEL STEVE I'VE MISSED YOU f**kER! |
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Oct 19, 2019 02:38 I'm not nice, f**k u and ur cat, how u been? I don't care eat s**t, tell ur mom I said hi. |
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Deleted User Oct 19, 2019 02:53
f**king cat left... So sad... Been trying to bait a new one to come over but i swear the cat deciding this was its new house has to be an organic decision, one cannot force mr cat butt to stay. |
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Deleted User Oct 19, 2019 03:49
Did you just tell me to go to church.... "That isn't a very nice thing to say" But you need to keep the topic on track, so i'm going to be seriously nice guy and tell everyone to avoid blackmetal as it leads to awesomeness. |
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Deleted User Nov 2, 2019 17:51
So I don't know how old this post is, I'm uncovering dust from the tomes as I explore. |
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Deleted User Nov 2, 2019 19:12
Dag, look at the date of the first post and it shows the date. If you comment in an old post it takes it to the top all over again. |
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Deleted User Nov 3, 2019 02:42
I get literally a view a year. Everything involving a girl's attraction revolves around looks and perceived wealth and status. Never even get a chance to know me because I'm already discarded within a second. |
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Deleted User Nov 3, 2019 03:17
^ this is why you get one view a year dude.. You have this delusion that girls "what your post said" which is a load of s**t. |
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Deleted User Nov 3, 2019 03:20
I get literally a view a year. Everything involving a boys attraction revolves around looks and perceived wealth and status. Never even get a chance to know me because I'm already discarded within a second. |
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Deleted User Nov 3, 2019 03:40
I hate having to agree with Malkie. Girls will not reply if you have no bio. If you can't make the effort we won't. |
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Deleted User Nov 3, 2019 03:51
Ouch? I'm not that f**king pai- well maybe a little. |
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Deleted User Nov 3, 2019 07:42
Yet again just nonsense. You can reply if you don't even view. I had a lovely bio but no one read it in years so what's the point. So many girls profiles just say "eh I'll fill this in later" and it's fine because they know guys will do all the work. It's amazing how you guys know someone's personality without talking to them. Proper thick people on here |
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Deleted User Nov 3, 2019 07:46 And of course denial denial denial deflection and its never your fault. |
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Deleted User Nov 3, 2019 07:54 You being unable to read or think is my denial? Ok... |
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Deleted User Nov 3, 2019 08:07 Yes yes cry moar the other guy and you would get along great, he can teach you about lookmaxing and give you that more defined jaw and you can be his power bottom. |
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Deleted User Nov 3, 2019 08:10 Is this how you impress the ladies? No substance just the weakest attempts at being funny ever? Explains a lot. It's ok to be jealous of this guy, but to be happy for him and wish him the best is when you've grown. Enjoy your mlp and nap time with your warm milk |
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Deleted User Nov 3, 2019 08:15 Um yes? I'm the white knight who's getting so much trim bonsai trees ask me for advice..... |
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Deleted User Nov 3, 2019 08:16 No wishing anyone happiness or the best when they're incels... Just no.. That is how we get shootings at batman movies. |
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Deleted User Nov 3, 2019 08:23
Sees he can't mess with me and tries to get me on side against the other guy. |
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Deleted User Nov 3, 2019 08:30
Dude i was implying you're both butt buddies? i don't care about you let alone want you on side? WHO are you? nothing and no one like mr colonicus. |
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Deleted User Nov 3, 2019 08:31
Wait you're 22 you idiot when you did first start on those 60 girls? Coming out of your mother doesn't count as s*x... But if you came back in her |
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Deleted User Nov 3, 2019 08:57
I can't believe you're still angry typing away.... Malkie won you are nothing. I mean Malkie 1 you 0 I mean laff shouldn't you be having s*x by now? |
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Deleted User Nov 3, 2019 11:58
No no black metal is fun but i CALLED him that cause i know he's soft and it would have as much effect as a pillow on polio.. |
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Deleted User Nov 4, 2019 13:35 If you’re really swimming in so much püssy, why are you even here? Just to regale us all with your stories about slaying so much vagina? Well you could have picked a less obscure corner of the internet, there are maybe 15 full time participants in this whole forum. |
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Deleted User Nov 4, 2019 20:48 ^ what he said. |
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Deleted User Nov 4, 2019 22:51
Actually to detail a little more.. Screw capt colon.. I mean being a streamer and just dropping twich for youtube or microsoft would be drowning those poor boys in trim AND more cash that capt will ever see. |
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Deleted User Nov 4, 2019 22:54 I’ll totally watch that. |
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Deleted User Nov 4, 2019 22:58
But i am not even kidding, one guy signed to microsoft for 50 mil.... another is going over to youtube and getting paid.. This is is like i slept with 60 girls and i have money? "so what?" |
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Deleted User Nov 4, 2019 22:59 *guy |
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Deleted User Nov 5, 2019 00:36 What? |
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Deleted User Nov 5, 2019 00:40 Separate post for that now malkie. I still dont get it thou. |
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Deleted User Nov 5, 2019 00:48 I dun either. I want to believe in this... But its just not quite slotting in. |
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Deleted User Nov 5, 2019 01:06
f**k off you, ya saw the word slipknot and now you're here |
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Deleted User Nov 6, 2019 20:26
Ah, I think I'm home with all these Jimmies being rustled... |
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Deleted User Nov 6, 2019 21:50 Welcome to the forum, lol. |
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Deleted User Nov 7, 2019 11:17 Im exactly like that guy you described OP...its a curse. Curse of the dishonest "nice" guy. I hated myself and i was ready to kill myself over a girl that didnt like me back the same way. I thought i was going to die alone too. |
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Deleted User Nov 11, 2019 14:59 fine, i'm a nice guy who is also an asshole but will hear you out and won't go on and on about my past ex's, least it was honest, you be the judge judy |
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Deleted User Nov 12, 2019 08:01
I've seen this exact post word for word before not sure if on here or facebook by someone else. |
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Deleted User Nov 15, 2019 04:09 The f**k 😂😂😂😂😂 f**king beta males |
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Deleted User Nov 18, 2019 08:04
Which part sorry? |
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Deleted User Nov 18, 2019 23:09 Imagine if that god said he was the A and the Z, people would have thought he was nuts. |
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Deleted User Nov 18, 2019 23:16 He did didn't he!?!? I am the alpha and the omega and i totes played fallout 3 |
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Nov 22, 2019 17:31 seems like some people are on here to be meme lords rather than making relationships. |
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Deleted User Nov 22, 2019 23:37
Even edgelords need their edgyladies. /kek /kikistan |
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Nov 23, 2019 00:07 she's taken and you were too late i presume? if she's not married, you never know, you may have another shot |
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Deleted User Nov 23, 2019 01:10
Must of been hence i'm here? "not sure how to reply to that honestly" I think i've had some amazing people in my life and lost a few also. Comes with age. |
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Deleted User Dec 17, 2019 03:07 Its weird reading this when i have been blocked by people leol |
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Deleted User Dec 17, 2019 14:02 Same. I kinda wish I wasn’t blocked by that one incel guy, he was fun to kick around. Ahh well. I’m sure there’ll be another one along shortly. |
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Deleted User Aug 25, 2020 02:06 Why are people digging up fossil threads? I mean I get that this site is boring, but damn. |
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Deleted User Aug 25, 2020 02:45 Newbies trawling thru old posts and commenting. |
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Aug 25, 2020 10:51 I think people are just so terrified of how the dating world is these days, with ghosting, and all the other stuff |
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Deleted User Aug 25, 2020 13:25
The dating world isn't the problem. People are becoming less interesting and seem to be demanding 'banter' or entertaining and distraction from the monotony of doing the same things all the time. |
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Deleted User Aug 25, 2020 18:54 So many posts by Deleted User. Hate that guy. |
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Deleted User Aug 26, 2020 03:00
Yeah damn that guy for having an even better system for being here... But a few of those are my deleted comments when i have a giant cry at people then quit discord or here |
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Deleted User Aug 26, 2020 14:37 A few are from that witty Britt girl too. Yes, I had a crush on her. |
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Jun 11, 2021 05:12 Sounds like you got trust issues, I wouldn't wanna be you. You're way too shallow, sorry! |
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Deleted User Jun 11, 2021 06:21
Life is 10% bullsh*t and the Rest of the pie is how you react to it And if somebody makes a personal post and you go off like a stubbed toe in the night You're probably One of the culprits out there doing it but then again what do I know |
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Deleted User Jun 11, 2021 14:13 Ohhh this was a classic. Some of my greatest hits are on here! |
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Deleted User Jun 12, 2021 22:56
2nd rule of nice guy club is not to say |
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Jun 12, 2021 23:08 Guys should take a leaf outta girl's books, you never hear about anyone calling themself a nice girl. (Generally because they're not). |
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Jun 12, 2021 23:10 tbh i never hear a girl say anything, they generally let you do all the hard work. take a leaf out of a girls book and youd just be both staring at each other until one blinks. |
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Deleted User Jun 12, 2021 23:19
Lmao touchè |
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Jun 12, 2021 23:40 @Loki haven't you been single forever? Whatever tactics you have been using, they've been just as effective... |
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Deleted User Jun 12, 2021 23:43
@raz he said he's never had a girl, I think.. |
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Jun 13, 2021 00:13
yus, but that is lifes way of balancing traits. |
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Deleted User Jun 13, 2021 00:28
" resign yourself away rather than dipping your toes in and then quickly with drawing everytime" |
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Deleted User Jun 13, 2021 00:58
Me personally isn't anything to do with no intention or I wouldn't bother with it in the first place but I have my reasons. |
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Jun 13, 2021 03:26 Just completley read post.Most men don't act like that and don't blame her for not wanting to have anything to do w him. |
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Jun 14, 2021 18:01 i think part of it was depression. part of it something else which could be any large number of things. |
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Jun 14, 2021 18:01 dude needs help anyway though, which he wont get and probably cant get help, will probably end in suicide. |
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Jun 14, 2021 23:00 Well concidering this post is coming up to being 2 years old... what was, is now a has, on whatever will be will be. |
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Jun 14, 2021 23:43 I play bass along yo songs as i really don't know how to play and it isn't hooked up to an amp.It is fun but really doesn't help.My depression is neccessary. |
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Deleted User Jun 15, 2021 12:36 Sometimes dudes will start talking about themselves if the woman doesn't say much. |