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I’m going to be completely honest: I’m relatively new here. I’ve been trying to go with the flow and meet new people and just explore connections and what not. However, I find it super hard to find someone willing to commit to something? I’m 33, tired of Bumble, Tinder, Hinge and I would like to have something that could go further the initial get to know/flirting stage. I met a guy, we chatted, video called… everything seemed great. Until you just keep on seeing him popping on the “recently online” (yeah, I was here too to laugh at some of the messages I get). And when I checked his Instagram followers, they were all girlies from AltScene. Am I being played? Am I being a silly nutcase? Can we actually trust each other here?
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Oct 29, 2023 13:01 Yeah, you are absolutely 100% right. Best to stay away from this. I appreciate your input. |
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Oct 29, 2023 13:06 It sounds like he is probably either a player and not looking for anything serious, or has you "benched", which means you aren't his first choice, so he is seeing how things go with multiple women and reserving you for if it doesn't work with whoever he's more interested in. It might even be as simple as wanting attention from women to boost his ego, with or without hooking up or anything. |
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Oct 29, 2023 13:10 And don't give up on finding something serious, if that's really what you want. If you want casual relationships that aren't serious, then go for it, but don't string people along and play them. Be up front about what you want. There are too many fake, manipulative pieces of s**t out there. |
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Deleted User Oct 29, 2023 13:22
Yes, it is possible to make long lasting connections. However, commitment takes time and the building blocks must be layed, just like any other relationship. |
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Oct 29, 2023 13:38 I think most relationships here are toxic whether you met someone. Best of lucks for a win win situation |
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Oct 29, 2023 17:11 Thank you all for feedback, you are incredibly kind 🫶🏻 I guess I’ve been dealing with a narcissist. I confronted with about my suspections and he blantly admited hes been talking with other girl, despise all the love bombing is been throwing my way. For context: I had planned a UK trip and all, where we were going to spend the week together, including him fetching me from the airport. He went ahead and said he was basically leading me on and that (this is a matter of 3 days) he is now into her and not me. He is a 47 year old dude in which I decided to trust. I asked him if he had intentions in letting me know about this situation and he just say yeah, since I brought it up. I know his intentions were to keep on leading me on, keep the love bombing and just have his options open. I was expecting more from a dude that is 14 years older than me. And the worst part? What he has done to me, we’ll continue doing to whoever comes along. |
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Oct 29, 2023 18:32
People are afraid of missing out... with so many different apps, even when a person has something good - they are drawn to making sure they aren't missing something "better". Falling into the trap of the grass is greener, you could say it is a symptom of addiction. |
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Oct 30, 2023 02:55 I hope it's possible to make long lasting connections, that's the only reason I'm here, striking up a conversation and getting to the getting to know you/flirting stage is super difficult, I'd love to just skip over it to a real actual relationship. |
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Oct 30, 2023 20:22 Definitely, my main issue isn't really that stage in itself, it's getting there cause so for most either don't want to talk at all or it's like a few messages and then left on read (and after two consecutive left on reads even I get the idea and stop bothering people). |