Do alternative gay/bi guys like femboys? :3

Jul 26, 2015 18:34

Yep, I personally think feminine looking guys are great since it kinda combines some of the feelings I have for females and males together, that and I tend to be on the more straight scale of my Bisexuality anyway. Couldn't be one myself but I love the look. I'm all for femboys.

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Jul 26, 2015 19:10

It depends, some guys prefer the more rugged masculine type, but some like more feminine guys.

It's the same with girls as well.

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Jul 26, 2015 19:11

Depends on the attitude.

Jul 26, 2015 19:42

Enki, aw that's nice to hear a positive comment like that! : D

Ashlii, yeah that's true, but from what I've noticed fans of the feminine guys are way less :x true about the girls as well!

Razor, what attitute works in femboys' favour then?

Thank you for the answers!

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Jul 26, 2015 20:10

In terms of aesthetic appreciation, men and women of various sehxual leanings may like the look, particularly in the alt scene.
As for those who lean in the direction you're referring to, types of looks are also a matter of preference.
We all have our tastes in appearance after all...

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Jul 26, 2015 22:11

I dunno. I mostly go for girls myself, some feminine looking guys look really good, but I prefer girls by far.

Jul 26, 2015 22:15

I wouldn't expect a straight guy to be into guys, that's not what I meant.

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Jul 26, 2015 22:16

Uhh my laptop is playing up and can't see the edit option...

I was gonna add that I do know that everyone has their own taste and I would never try to force others to like what they don't. I was just wondering if maybe - within the alternative scene - guys like me have a better shot

Jul 26, 2015 22:31

I absolutely ADORE gay guys and femboys! I especially love the Japanese femboys!

Jul 26, 2015 22:31

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Jul 26, 2015 22:37

Sorry, my brain's been having a farty moment.

But yeah, you're more likely to find guys who like you in the alternative scene.

Jul 26, 2015 22:42

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Jul 26, 2015 22:48

Anime femboys rule!

Jul 26, 2015 22:48

Jul 26, 2015 23:01

It's not called being gay. It's called being FABULOUS!

Jul 27, 2015 00:05

Oh god Panda, what have you done?!
Why? Why those images....

I wish I never taught you how to use images in the forums...

Jul 27, 2015 00:33

Im so confused right now haha
But yeah I agree, it's fabulous

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Jul 27, 2015 03:31

Pandora. Anime is strictly prohibited and forbidden and punishable or something like that here.

You will pay.

Dearly.

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Jul 27, 2015 03:33

Although I think that FABULOUS gif is absolutely fabulous.

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Jul 27, 2015 11:07

No... Must... Not......... Post...........

ANAL

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Jul 27, 2015 12:07

Everyone is cool. So long as nothing gets thrown in people's faces. No one likes anything all up in their face.

Jul 27, 2015 12:20

That's true, Razor.

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Jul 27, 2015 12:38

Apart from that, be a decent person and you'll attract other decent people.

Jul 27, 2015 13:14

I believe I'm a very decent person but so far I've only been attracting non-decent people... But I know what you mean and I agree, it's just the matter of being open and welcoming so you won't accidentally miss out.

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Jul 27, 2015 13:48

I'm totally the same. But yeah, you get to a point where you can't give a f**k any more.

Jul 27, 2015 13:58

Yeah if all you get is just crap you just lose hope. I still have some hope cause there's like what, 7 billion people on Earth so... I mean at least one person out of the 7 billion is that one decent you need, lol.

But I know how it works. One of my flatmates has screwed me over a big amount of money and at this point I'm literally scared of a new flatmate that's gonna move in.

It's so offtopic now, lol, I'm sorry!!

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Jul 27, 2015 14:07

I like that kind of hope.
Ooh yeah, can't help you there, just make sure your half of the rent is always paid up.

Jul 27, 2015 14:11

It's the realistic kind of hope, which I like too - not fooling yourself but also giving yourself a chance.

Yeah, I'm the one responsible for the house so it's all on my head... but yeah doesn't really matter, just an example of how prejudice works lol.

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Jul 27, 2015 15:02

Well if you own te house, you control who lives there. To an extent.

Jul 27, 2015 15:06

I don't I'm just the leading tenant It's a complicated story and would rather not tell it on here, lol

Let's go back to femboys! If anyone feels like they have something to say that is.

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Jul 27, 2015 15:18

Back to femboys then.
I was friends with one for a while, except the man side of him was disgustingly perverted. He made a pretty attractive woman though.

Jul 27, 2015 15:24

Lol, that is true - often crossdressers/femboys/all the labels are disgustingly perverted. I think I should probably acknowledge that I mean the decent people that just like to look this way. You can find gross perverts everywhere and they can look like the sweetest old lady in the world

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Jul 27, 2015 15:26

Ah good point. In that case. Never met a decent femboy. Saying that, I have some wonderful gay friends.

Jul 27, 2015 16:04

I'm decent, you can count me!

But I suppose it's because it's mostly treated, seen and used as a kink rather than a lifestyle etc.

Shakil Alias

Jul 28, 2015 01:27

I would only fall for a "feminine" man as long as they are sweet and not bitchy. not interested in "masculine" as it doesn't do anything for me and think we would clash most of the time
however i think its important as a gay or bi person to be open as you never know who really is your soulmate

Jul 28, 2015 01:57

I think it's a really good point, Shax - but also it should be a rule for everyone, not just gay or bi people

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Jul 28, 2015 02:41

I admire your positive attitude, Glitter. I sift through the pile of cinders which has turned into my cynicism desperately looking for a glimmer of an ember of hope...

Don't ever let your heart die...

Jul 28, 2015 02:49

Modda, thank you and I will never let it die - it was dead for such a long time that now that I have it back I love it dearly. But maybe thanks to it I am able to appreciate the smallest things!

Jul 28, 2015 07:59

Jul 28, 2015 08:08

This is Aoba from DRAMAtical MURder.

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Jul 28, 2015 08:23

Pandora, you're beginning to frighten me....

Jul 28, 2015 10:11

Pandora the pics aren't even on topic...

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Jul 28, 2015 10:14

Ahahaha all that anime ahhhhh, no but I totally agree with everything that has been said. Personally, femboys are pretty darn attractive honestly but yeah it depends on the persons on tastes. Don't worry hun, as far as I can tell, you're an awesome guy, might just need to wait a little longer to find the someone (althought I know that the female fan base for femboys is fairly large, not sure about the male side though)

Jul 28, 2015 10:45

That's another positive comment to lift my spirit up
Yeah, waiting is all I can do Aha I've noticed that, but it's because women are often more tolerant than guys I think... dunno!

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Jul 28, 2015 11:31

the pics are because they're femboys in japanese anime and manga so sorta but rhey don't represent real people but they're still nice to look at
^_^ Heee yeah, that's with a lot of people because you don't know where they're going to come from etc annnnd I don't know if I can answer on the topic of women being more tolerant because although I am a pretty patient person some people just drive me nuts

Jul 28, 2015 12:30

Oh god, not DRAMAtical MURder, that show is basically just a huge gangbang of male characters.
Panda Stop it please, you are killing me here. As much as I love anime, those pics and gifs are making me suicidal.

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Jul 28, 2015 13:17

NO Pandora! You must keep going! for the sake of humanity!

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Jul 28, 2015 17:17

Pandora, you're actually overdosing on the overkill more than I do. And that's a lot.

Shakil Alias

Jul 28, 2015 20:12

You're right about it applying to everyone.
sometimes i just get caught up on hard it is to find someone for real if you are gay.
but i guess you have to be patient and know who to stay clear of. there's one guy i was dating who loved fashion, and i personally didn't have a problem with it but he kept pointing out how he didn't like how i dressed and didn't understand little things like why i liked the music i liked. there's no way ill change myself to be with the other person, they're not worth it.

Jul 28, 2015 23:07

Ooo Found a photo where I look a bit more feminine than usual, mainly the way I hold myself and the way my hair falls, although now that I think about it I've never tried wearing make-up and long hair.

Probably since I was brought up in a Portuguese environment which is hiiiiighly homophobic... Even though there's loads of gays in Portugal, go figure. But anyhow, might try it one day just to see how I look. Could be an undiscovered femboy

Jul 28, 2015 23:53

Women tend to be more forgiving in the aspect of looks I think? Dunno...

Shax, it's hard to speak for the whole gay community but so far my experiences weren't too positive. Just like you said though - it's important to stay who you are, stay true to yourself and never change for anyone. Which is the reason I'm a bit lonely, lol... but sometimes that's what comes with principles.

Haha Enki, who knows?? If u were visit Cardiff let me know I'll do ur makeup hahaha

faux girl

Jul 29, 2015 08:00

im disappointed that there isnt more femboy and related subjects on this site. id love chatting with other gurls like me

Jul 29, 2015 09:23

Faux girl don't be disappointed!! Be grateful that the site looks like it's very welcoming and friendly towards us, femboys! Let's start a club for femboys!

Jul 29, 2015 10:35

It is honestly really surprising the way people have responded to this thread, I expected homophobic comments immediately. Man now I feel left out, can the club include their admirers as well?

Jul 29, 2015 11:19

Of course, Enki! Welcome to the Club of Femboys & Their Admirers!

I'm pretty surprised too, I wasn't expecting such a friendly responses! Maybe I'll stay here with you guys for a longer time then ^_^

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Jul 29, 2015 11:41

The trollers haven't trolled, I guess they know how to show respect

Jul 29, 2015 19:41

I love femboys i wish i could just openly be one lol

Jul 29, 2015 19:52

Joey, shush... better not to tempt them

Grizly why can't you?

Jul 29, 2015 20:18

my parents are highly against it and any form of sexual rebellion

Jul 29, 2015 20:29

Aw, I understand. Don't worry, one day you will move out and you will do whatever you want

Jul 29, 2015 20:34

Yeah thatll be soon

Jul 29, 2015 20:35

If you need any advice on make-up etc just let me know Got some experience haha

Jul 29, 2015 20:52

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Jul 30, 2015 17:07

"I'm pretty surprised too, I wasn't expecting such a friendly responses! Maybe I'll stay here with you guys for a longer time then ^_^"

"The trollers haven't trolled, I guess they know how to show respect"

This place has never been against people of real difference (lgbt, disabled, etc) but against those of fake difference "I iz so random I likes ponies raww lolz I'm a snow flake blah blah"

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Jul 31, 2015 06:02

Look Winston, you got some natural airheads that still get trolled, just stating a fact that these guys are smart enough to know when not to. Didn't mean for it to come off harsh, read a lot of the trollers stuff and I find them great and I already know that these guys arent d**ks.

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Aug 2, 2015 05:57

" This place has never been against people of real difference (lgbt, disabled, etc)... "

Since when was LGBT, disabled, , etc, a "real difference" ? People are people. Subcategorizing them into something different, and in a manner much akin to Society's dismissive 'lesser than' designations, merely feeds into the caste system mentality which thrives off of such labeling in the first place, thus perpetuating the lineage of negative stereotyping we all supposedly abhor.

" ... but against those of fake difference "I iz so random I likes ponies raww lolz I'm a snow flake blah blah""

As with the subcategorization already addressed, how does one delineate fake difference from a naturally imbued one? Sure, someone born "disabled" is different obviously from a My Little Pony fan, but so what?
How much of sexual orientation is purely by innate nature, effected by life experience, or a matter of experimentation? The topic this thread is discussing is a variation on a theme guided by personal taste and choice. It is basically style, not genetic. While equating it with MLP may seem something of a stretch, in that regard it is very much the same. Not to belittle anyone who leans in such way, but it is a "difference" consciously acquired. Much like wanting to be a snow flake.

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Aug 6, 2015 21:03

Oh hun you're just new. Just wait.

Aug 6, 2015 22:19

I was thinking what to reply to what Modda said for few days... and don't really have much to say. Yes, people are people but aren't we all different? I think we're all equal but not the same... if that makes sense?

As for the rest - yup! All sounds legit.

Bangtheflash - not really sure what you mean

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Aug 7, 2015 04:22

That wasn't directed at you OP.

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Aug 7, 2015 05:38

Glitter, I have no qualms against anyone identifying themselves as different or placing themselves into a certain category, subculture, state of being... such is an individual's prerogative. By virtue of joining this site we are all in a sense admitting to adopting or celebrating a type of identity that is somewhat different from the norm...
My issue is society's tendency to label us as doctor, lawyer, manager... denoting approval; or as weirdo, alcoholic, loser... indicating disapproval.
When somebody says, "My friend Jack, whose gay"..."My Jewish ex".. "My classmate Sabrina, you know, the black one".. we are playing into society's pattern of subjugating into the other....
Yes, we are all different, but in accordance to what winston stated - and not that he meant it in any malicious or disparaging way - it would seem that some are more different than others.

Aug 7, 2015 11:12

I see your point Modda, and I agree with it generally but then I'm thinking is it really harmful? Stating someone's characteristics/features to make it easier for others to recognize the person they're speaking of... yes, in a way could be bad if we're pointing out the bad things - but being gay or black or whatever isn't bad, so I don't know if it's really harmful?

I know what you're saying - that labeling other people is not cool. But I feel like sometimes labels just make things easier and I don't know if they are so bad. I'm gay - that's a label - but how is it hurting me? I'm not sure really.

I guess it depends on who's doing the labeling and in what situation. But like I said - I really don't know. I was never hurt by other people labeling me as long as it's true. Even if it's harmful - like saying I'm fat, which is a label after all - but it's true, so why should I make an issue out of it.

Perhaps I just don't see the real side of labeling people? And falsely think it's alright? Dunno.

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Aug 8, 2015 07:25

Back when I was alive in the 80s, I began to notice this in the papers:

"Three youths assaulted and mugged a man"

"Three black youths assaulted and mugged an elderly man"

"Three black female youths assaulted and mugged an elderly man"

"Three black female Jewish youths... "

"Three black female Jewish Lesbian youths... "

"Three black female Jewish Lesbian ghetto youths... "

Now describe the three youths from the first statement.

THAT'S basically what got me thinking about this kind of thing.
So I decided to stop 'marking' people as this or that or.... as a matter of principle. And it confused the heck out of people:

"Oh, that friend of yours, the one you introduced me to last week in the cafeteria, forgot her name... you know"
"No, I don't"
"Long, curly hair... in your Calc class"
"Who?"
"I dunno, big, beautiful brown eyes, hoop earings, but not tacky..."... etc... etc...
"Oh, you mean Sabrina, the black one? Why didn't you say?"
"Well cuz I didn't know her name obviously"
"No, that she was black!"

- The "black one"
I literally had that conversation with someone once.

Now if someone wants to identify themselves as this or that or part of this group or movement or whatever, that's their choice. For instance as you mentioned about fat... I got a thang for them so-called BBWs and have known people active in the Fat Acceptance Movement. Take something society used derisively and turn into a badge of pride. Loud n proud. That's fine with me. But I would never say, "Linda, my fat ex-girlfreind". I'll just say, "Linda, my ex"...
Even before all this, I used to pull another fast one on people. Being of half Puerto Rican background in an Italian neighborhood wasn't easy at first on little Fugga in the way back when. And a few years later, poppa Fugga's country of origin didn't do much to rectify that situation (well actually it did, once they got a whiff of that sugga in the news, Kid Modda weren't a Spic anymore. Social progress, yay!). But those who didn't know me thought I was a paison upon meeting me. I'd let this flow till they started badmouthing PRs, then I'd hit em with the guess-where-my-momma's-from after a bit. Purely for entertainment value, of course. I later expanded this to include whatever anyone was badraging at the time. Blacks? Oh I'm half. Jews? Yup, that too. Gays? Well put your seat belts on big boy, have I got a surprise for you...
I take great delight in pretzelating the brains of bigots...
Because I aim to please...