Depressed

Dec 15, 2025 18:09

f**k what anyone else thinks. If being you makes you happy (as it should), then be you. At the end of the day, all we truly have in our lives are ourselves, so why sellout for someone who wouldn't do the same for you?

Dec 15, 2025 18:23

Shave your hair off and grow some facial hair. Sometimes evolution of character is required.

Dec 15, 2025 18:28

@Blank, that stick it to the man trash is cutting your own nose off to spite your face. If devotion to self image is holding you back, you only have yourself to blame.

G☠️thg☠️y

Dec 15, 2025 18:39

I don't want to shave off my hair and I hate facial hair

Dec 15, 2025 18:47

Then by that logic I'd rather "hold myself back" than feed myself to the lions again.

Dec 15, 2025 19:08

There's nothing wrong with trying to do something different with one's appearance. When I was younger I had other kinds of punky haircuts and then a gal pal suggested I do a mohawk. I didn't want to at first, but then I let her cut it, and 20 plus years later, I still love it. Also, dying it and cutting is a fun form of artistic expression. I get compliments every day, from all walks of life. Middle aged white men, African Americans, and mostly women, to the point where I feel like just a haircut to them. Had I not taken suggestion, I wouldn't have discovered the haircut that when it's spiked up, I can walk up to most ladies and feel like I have, at minimum, a small chance. I'm so serious about this that there's a gal I wanna ask out and I have to shave the sides and spike it up today. There's other examples I could give too. Try something new, you can always go back...

Dec 15, 2025 21:01

Is branding still in fashion? I mean you look like I someone i knew once. Someone plucked your wings early?

Kris1985

Dec 15, 2025 21:57

Never change who you are dude

Dec 15, 2025 22:01

Why not?

Dec 15, 2025 22:14

You can always change things about yourself, but you should only do so for the right reasons. In other words, don't do things you wouldn't want to do just because someone else would like it.

Dec 15, 2025 22:41

@Kris

Guys this is my new pen pal Kris.

Dec 15, 2025 22:41

@Kris

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Dec 16, 2025 00:34

I agree and disagree with you blank, I think with all things in life, there's a line. Someone suggesting I try something with my hair, or facial hair, nbd, I can always fix it. But someone trying ro tell my how to dress head to toe, what to do, how to be (excluding changing negative traits) and a whole myriad of other things to change, then no beuno. I've been with people who have tried to do both. Strangely enough, the small changes that have to do with hair and facial hair, the ladies have always been right.

Dec 16, 2025 00:41

Also, I've had so many variants of an alternative punk style over the years, like 7 or 8, I've never been scared to rake a risk and wear something thay might be stupid, fashion is fun for me. But I've never understood those who are SoOoOO ScAweD to take a risk in that sense. I, to some degree, think those who are like that, are kinda pussies. Try something new, it doesn't have to be something suggested to you, but maybe try thinking out of the box? How do you know if you're gonna like something unless you try it? s**t, when it comes to clothes, it's not like you have to even buy them, you can go to a store and try them on, for free. No risk involved.

Dec 16, 2025 01:10

Well the main difference is that the context here is whether or not he should be "normal" because "women are looking at me". In this context, it is stupid because it implies he would strip himself of his own core values (specifically the bit about conforming) just because no one likes him how he is. Now if he said he asked for suggestions to enhance his look or advice on how to be more appealing, that's another story.

I know I'm probably looking at it too literally, but I just find the idea of stripping yourself of your identity in an effort to make yourself more compatible both superficial and short-sighted. Even if it does work out, the cracks will eventually show and if the real you isn't what they signed up for, then it'll just end up poorly for everyone involved.

If you tried something that was suggested to you and were comfortable enough to try it and ended up being happy with it, cool. But that isn't any reason to convince someone to do what they clearly aren't comfortable with.

Hell, I ended up cutting my hair short because I haven't done it in years and the person I was with didn't want me to when I was stuck with them.

So yeah, it goes both ways, but such is life as life is nothing more than a balancing act.

G☠️thg☠️y

Dec 16, 2025 01:33

Your right I mean what is the use of going to go try on clothes that I know that I'll never buy and I won't feel like myself

Dec 16, 2025 02:56

Op did you mean women aren't looking at you, is that a typo or did you mean they are looking at you?

Actually, I agree with you blank and I do see what you're saying. I had a hard time understanding the post tbh. Looking back I think I misinterpreted parts of it. But that just turns it into bitching for bitching's sake. Don't get no attention, but don't want to do anything about it. And to be clear op, I'm not saying completely change your aestetic, I'm not saying go buy some khakis and a polo, but you could mix it up and still be you. If the choice is a crusty old band T shirt (not saying yours is crusty, just using this as an example) and a cool black jacket, which do you think most ladies are going to prefer? If you're open to dating outside of alt circles it might be something to consider. I hope this helps.

Dec 16, 2025 03:05

Also, some of the most physically repulsive, scuzzy guys I've ever met were some of the biggest "lady's men." So I'd say personality plays the biggest role of all, maybe pheromones too. A lot of it is psychological.

Dec 16, 2025 03:11

Change you weasel, if you want a woman and they won't look at you. Do what you can to make yourself more appealing. Who are you trying to prove something to, it's funny how backwards all weak and brainwashed people are, because you have been trained to think by making adjustments to improve your life or situation that somehow you're selling out or you're changing for the wrong reasons when in reality, forcing yourself to stay in situations you're not happy with is really selling out, you're f**king selling your future self out at some fake grasp of pride and ego. Grow up and do what you need to do to make your situation better because trust me, when you're happier, you'll realise how much you have scammed yourself at this fake idea of "who you are". Don't listen to these weak clowns on the forum telling you to not change. They themselves are brainwashed losers, half of these people talk about their riddled mental health issues yet come on here trying to have arguments and debates and give advice when their life is in shambles. Listen to realitic people who are fit to give advice.

Dec 16, 2025 03:37

Hell yeah dude be like him ^^^ he sounds super stable! THE MOST STABLE!!! HE RUNS MENS HEALTH SEMINARS!!!!!!!!!!!!

FIGHT MILK CAW!

Dec 16, 2025 11:15

See prime example... This Sus guy i have seen talking about his f**ked up life and f**ked up mental multiple times. I don't think it's nice to shame someone on these things, but when this clown as you have just seen tries to take shots at people when he can't even handle and maintain his own life is proof that my previous message holds true.

Dec 16, 2025 11:17

Imagine his low IQ that he's trying to insinuate that i'm unstable because my message basically said to do what you can to improve your life. "Further proof that these clowns as i call them on the forum are a complete and total mess waste of space posers".

Dec 16, 2025 11:58

Blunt but not wrong (in regard to the topic).

Without the will to upgrade yourself a caterpillar will remain as caterpillar.

Dec 16, 2025 13:10

Destroy your ego before it destroys you.
Shadow work with yourself and books are useful tho. At least people think about themselves when they read or listen.
No one needs to be qualified to call themselves effed up!
Everyone has problems.
Everyone is fighting demons of past and future.
Saying "go get help" is the new "oh dear, a child without a limb in third world country...".
Pointing out "doctors".

Do cows still moo when they're happy?
Do crows fly into the sunset?

@doc.
Thank you for making it accessible

Dec 16, 2025 14:27

Exactly Merc, i'm a straight talking, blunt person, fluffing advice to people like the OP isn't going to help them, they need a strong masculine figure to tell them what is logically correct and then they are free to do what they want with the information. My conscious is clear that i'm giving what i think is the best advice and weak people like this Sus can try to twist and warp and play down what i say. Means nothing to me.

IAMEYK

Dec 16, 2025 18:05

Hahaha strong masculine figure. You ain't it, dude.

Dec 16, 2025 18:58

A new challenger has entered the tournament.

IAMEYK

Dec 16, 2025 20:06

Nah

Dec 16, 2025 20:17

I didn't warp anything. I didn’t even disagree with you, dips**t. Learn how words work. My point was, a person can say something without being a total condescending d**k about it.

Which tells me, you aren't what you preach, you're a hypocrite, and a phony.

Dec 16, 2025 20:25

You really aren't worth the time to embarrass about this, your'e too closed minded to see my point, even when I get you in check mate, I want to point out your total fake ass persona to the people here, but as IAMEYK said, "Nah."

Oh yeah, and I am mental, what of it? You're too wrapped up in your own bulls**t to notice that I've talked about my past, but past ain't present bud. You go out and get yourself a hug, you need it.

Dec 16, 2025 21:22

Finally a lil' spice...

Deleted User

Dec 16, 2025 21:27

G it doesn't matter.
It depends on you. What I lack in appearance I make up in skill and eloquence.

As long as you feel good.
Im depressed permanently, but my fix for the image issues was to stop looking in the mirror and just take care of myself more.

The more you see your own reflection. The more you will find fault within.