Am I ugly

Mar 9, 2025 16:46

This sites dead. Dating is almost unviable on here as most locations have a small handful of active users, many of whom aren't actually looking to date.

Mar 9, 2025 16:50

Well I'm also on turn up cause that's the only other place that has goth or alternative women on it but I'm getting nothing there either like i said I'm just ugly and unattractive

Mar 9, 2025 17:57

Now even though there is some truth to what this weak loser Walter said, bro, hit the gym and get a more generic normal hair style. I'm genuine enough to give you some actual advice. Good luck out there.

Mar 9, 2025 18:24

I've been on here since 2017 and been on 1 date. It didn't matter what shape I was in or what fashion I embraced. There's something to be said for being at the right place at the right time, and having whatever is seen as attractive at that time. Some of us struggle more than others. I just embrace it at this point.

Mar 9, 2025 21:49

Been here since 16" used it for trying date for one year, realized there's a lot of fakes, nutters ,time wasters and people who already have someone so not bothered with dating,only speak via the forum or the friends I've made along the way.. saying that...
I do know two happy couples that met here uk/ us and are engaged so there's that.

Mar 9, 2025 21:55

Yeah siren I was here before I met a woman from Edmonton Kentucky I met her on here we were talking for a few months and we eventually wanted to start dating each other so we did everything seemed great at first but as time went on I found out that she was lying to me about something big she was with someone else before me and she told me about it after I found out about it after that we didn't talk for some months and then we ended up reaching out to each other she had married the other guy and told me that it was a mistake and that she wasn't happy with the marriage well come to find out that was a lie and in the end she chose him over me and just shattered my heart all to pieces

Mar 9, 2025 22:09

Yeahhhhhhhhh seems to happen a lot on all dating sites not just this.

Mar 9, 2025 22:49

Lexi poo what's wrong with the way I look huh and it wouldn't matter if I did go to the gym cause I can't build muscles cause where I have FAS FETAL ALCOHOL SYNDROME

Mercurius Mesmerize

Mar 9, 2025 23:51

Have you tried?

Mar 9, 2025 23:54

Mercurius Yes I have

Mercurius Mesmerize

Mar 10, 2025 00:02

Some things take time, and other things take more time. People with ailments have been known to defy the odds.

Mar 10, 2025 00:11

Mercurius I've been back on here since February and no one has been interested in getting to know me better I don't know how much longer I have to wait I miss my ex but not her behavior I can't reach out to her cause she has me blocked

Deleted User

Mar 10, 2025 02:40

I think maybe be more mysterious and don't put everything out there all at once. Most definitely don't talk about your ex. It sorta isn't attractive.

Also maybe try being happy with yourself before seeking a relationship. Meet personal goals.

Deleted User

Mar 10, 2025 02:42

That and beauty is in the eye of the beholder, some women will find you attractive some won't. Looks aren't everything. You can be physically attractive on the outside but if your personality is ugly... Well no one will want to put up with that.

Mar 10, 2025 03:15

I mean flyxglitter I'm just telling the truth that I do miss the good things about her but I'm ready to move on cause of how she treated me

emperorroberto

Mar 10, 2025 06:28

This site is cr-p.How many girls are from where you're from and how many live close by?After that there's more sh-t.

(･`ω･)

Mar 11, 2025 04:22

Site’s been good to me.. even though it’s “dying”.

Grim, it’s alright to miss things but you usually still shouldn’t share that with someone new. That is something tender that you share after you’ve already built up trust and an understanding of the basis of your relationship with the other person. And even then it depends on the dynamic, personalities, and a few other things.

Mar 11, 2025 12:47

As others have said, don't trauma dump on your profile. If you want to talk about yourself on it, then talk about positive things, hobbies, goals, etc. Keep it light at the beginning

Anthony55

Mar 11, 2025 13:21

Dating here is almost impossible since their are lessers and lesser people

Mar 11, 2025 14:22

Nice to see Lexi is still projecting as always. Maybe one day he will actually take his own advice. 😂

I didn't read your profile OP, but definitely do NOT have any mentions of your ex or trauma dump on there. It's going to make people immediately move on, as 1. it makes you look like you aren't over your ex, and 2. aren't healed enough to be dating in general.

Mar 11, 2025 16:30

Hey Walt, if Lexi tries to talk to you just send him this:

Slothpenguin

Mar 14, 2025 01:56

Wow, while month you've been here! Women are all over the world on here. Chances of being in your area are slim and not every woman will fancy you, same as you won't fancy every woman.

Mar 14, 2025 06:00

The funny thing is, you posting that makes that comment I made even more relevant and proved I was correct lol.

It's also the perfect response to you again haha! Love it

Mar 14, 2025 06:01

Also OP,

I'm not calling you ugly, i'm just trying to give advice on something that would improve your appearance because believe it or not, that helps in dating.

If you can't go to the gym then fine, i'll take your word for it, but don't do the purple hair thing, that will cut out a lot of your options.

Mar 14, 2025 09:37

You can trust Lexi, he's got hundreds of years worth of experience of being ugly and trying desperately to get a date B)

Mar 14, 2025 13:17

Lexi is hat-fishing anyways

Mar 14, 2025 18:18

He's blocked me so he can't see the post right underneath this one with his messages in it

Mar 14, 2025 23:10

Spooky time has never messaged me, I must not be hot 😂

Mar 14, 2025 23:20

Also 20 girls per year want to date a guy who's profile says you won't compare to his ex.... Hmmmmm either women's standards are in the dirt or Me. Spooky anal Time is a liar.

Mar 15, 2025 01:28

I changed my profile I don't mention my ex at all now

Mar 15, 2025 02:36

Spooky time is blocked bc he's dodgy

Robertodarrrk

Mar 15, 2025 08:26

This is an alt site so unsure why having purple non generic hair would count against the guys dating chances

Hartlee

Mar 15, 2025 08:56

Well guess I need to rush out and change my hair colour ASAP if I want more options....
Damn, I had so many other plans for today....

Mar 15, 2025 12:57

Lexis response to colourful hair is the perfect example of aposematism working in nature B)

Eoten

Mar 15, 2025 13:09

Unnatural hair colors on a girl is a red flag for me for sure. Not sure how girls see it when guys do it. But I surely won't be doing it.

Mar 15, 2025 13:14

You can only change your hair colour by making a pact with satan after killing 100 babies. Big red flag fr fr

Mar 15, 2025 15:06

Eoten I'm not a girl I'm a guy bro get it right

Eoten

Mar 15, 2025 19:52

I don't recall claiming you were either.

MTLGW

Mar 15, 2025 21:08

Well i looked at ur profile...I don't see anything particular wrong...I don't see why people judge on ur hair color either...yea don't take this site too seriously...it's a great place to meet female friends with versatile personalities but that's about it

ctsvbullet

Mar 15, 2025 21:34

becuse today in dating everything has changed in the culture the personlity today everything has really aling with that match them if doesnt match up thn the attraction wont be their but also about one percent guys as well with money having their life together so there just more factors too it unfrontally.

Deleted User

Mar 16, 2025 04:17

Unnatural hair colors is a red flag for you? What the fück are you doing on an alt dating site then? I remember coming here back in 2017 specifically because I WANTED to bang a blue, green, or purple haired girl.

Dundal

Mar 16, 2025 05:55

Well this thread quickly devolved into s**t tossing lol

Mar 16, 2025 05:59

They usually do ...

Alt dating site - people - " most people aren't alt "

One trait of an alt person - * unnatural hair color*
People - you're never gonna get a date

= 🤌🏻

MTLGW

Mar 16, 2025 06:10

I always wanted my hair to be silver grey...

Gothicvamp777

Mar 16, 2025 06:51

Calling Walter a weak loser is an understatement

Mar 16, 2025 10:11

I dont wanna make any snap judgements here but Vamp managing to read three comments into the thread so he can reply means his literacy is improving again!

Gothicvamp777

Mar 16, 2025 18:03

Bitch I know how to read

Mar 16, 2025 18:12

Mar 17, 2025 01:18

Lmao Vamp go back to making your cry-w**k videos and let the adults talk.

Slothpenguin

Mar 18, 2025 10:50

Careful Neon. He'll call the FBI on you!
https://youtu.be/jGX-XiZ8Cis?si=Na7-yF8yw-lthcec

He has a Saturday livestream on youtube, maybe we should all join him!

Mar 18, 2025 12:52

Awww. Vamps projecting again too. Talk to me when you aren't a literal walking, talking joke known for cry w**king and posting s**t that makes people feel dumber just for reading it.

Mar 18, 2025 12:53

It's honestly weird how even if I haven't signed in for weeks, when I do sign in vamp is in my list of people who recently viewed my page.

Mar 18, 2025 13:13

OP I'd advise you check who actually is in, or has recently been in a relationship prior to taking people's advise as well. Many people are quick to say what gets dates, yet haven't been on one in years, and have been single for even longer.

There's lots of those types on this site.

The frustrations of FAS are valid, I would still recommend exercise at least as a fork of stress relief and to build confidence though, even though muscle growth is definitely impacted by it. Muscle growth is nice, but not the only benefit of resistance training or exercise in general.

Potentially look into flattering hairstyles, and clothes as well. Presentation goes a long way. Finding social hobbies that you enjoy can widen your circle and make dating easier too. In person works far better than online still, because it's more organic and there's less pressure. Confidence and charisma go a long way. Being fun and interested (more so than interesting) also help. People like to feel good and talk about themselves. If you're presence is enjoyable and people feel at ease with you, you'll have better results.

Mar 18, 2025 13:16

If you really like someone, you should push them down the stairs. Its a sign of true love.

Gothicvamp777

Mar 18, 2025 22:50

Yall can go to hell

DeathWish1819

Mar 19, 2025 00:15

You might have to get a hair cut and go Normie route bro not everyone can get a alt goth mommies you'll get there mate, get on trt and cut weight you'll be fine

Mar 19, 2025 00:37

Death wish1819 f**k that I'll never be normal ever if no woman likes my weird looks f**k them I'm not changing I like me

Mar 19, 2025 01:08

Honestly, if you have to change your core self to match someone's build-a-man (bear) template, what's the point? I hear that a lot: "you need to make yourself appealing, you gotta look the way they want you to, you gotta be someone you're not". I don't see how that's conducive to a healthy relationship. As much as it sucks, one is probably better off waiting for someone who has basic compatibility sure, but is otherwise open to their parter being their own self, however long that may take. That's just my opinion though.

Mar 19, 2025 01:12

For what it's worth: I've been fit, buff, fat; I've had dark blue hair, my natural hair; I've dressed in dark clothes, in bright clothes; all different cosmetic changes over the years, and still struggled myself. I think some people just struggle more than others for whatever reason at dating.

DeathWish1819

Mar 19, 2025 01:37

Unfortunately in life looks are the first impression if you look like s**t you'll be perceived as so it's harsh but it's the truth and grim really should cut the hair from the receding hairline and probably lose some fat you can see it on his face I'm not claiming to be perfect but those things will help him out in the long run it's actually pretty realistic I'll be honest grim you won't be pulling any alt girls unfortunately your looking old and disheveled no offense

Mar 20, 2025 01:15

@wave it's rizz. That's the part men often over look. If you're not a Greek God physically but you have rizz you'll still land ladies. Trust me.

Mar 20, 2025 01:31

1. Project self confidence. Walk into a room and command it, hold your head high, be social and engaging.
2. Be funny, can't over state this. Make jokes, be willing to laugh at yourself. If you slip and fall on your butt get up and laugh it off "I apparently forgot how to walk"
3. Be playful. Playfully tease, which is not the same as negging. Do not neg, it doesn't work. Playful teasing is a chance to use psychology to your advantage. Before I got locked down I liked to tease playfully as my main form of flirting.
4. Don't simp!!!!! Nobody finds a simp attractive. Give compliments in a none desperate way. Think how would you give a friend a compliment "bro sweet band shirt!" Same rules apply. So don't call women beautiful or s*xy to start, compliment on a more neutral way "what brand of dye did you use for your hair? It looks awesome!"
5. Talk yourself up without boasting. For example, you could sarcastically (but not too sarcastically) make a comment about being Casanova reborn. But make it clear you're being silly. Plant seeds in people's minds that you're a catch but keep it humble.

I find flirting often is gender neutral, so my tricks seem to work when men use them as well. I made a joke about how everyone in the forum was my new boyfriend (obviously sarcastic, but playful, and suggests I have enough confidence to make a joke that's ever so slightly c**ky without being full of myself).

Just practice flirting. You can here for sure. I've seen the dudes here joking make passes at each other for laughs. All practice is good practice.

Mar 20, 2025 01:53

Splat hair dye from Walmart

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Mar 20, 2025 13:53

Bruv

Mar 20, 2025 16:15

Look, all you nerds can pretend I'm some kind of bad or superficial guy, but the truth is, women are way more picky than men, and the OPs thread is literally asking if he's ugly and talking about his struggle in dating. So I'm a genuine enough person to give him some looks maxing advice. He can take or leave it , that's his choice, but all you weakling types giving false cliché information that isn't actually constructive for him are being useless. Then you try to shame a blunt honest people like myself because it's your way to try to feel morally superior, it's gross and embarrassing. Also I'm not saying people shouldn't have coloured hair, but the WWE wrestler purple hair style. That is going to cut you off from way more options then it's going to attain you options. So if expressing yourself is more important than getting pussy, then don't complain about not getting pussy.

Mar 20, 2025 16:16

person* than*

Mar 20, 2025 22:16

Waiting patiently for someone push me down the stairs....

Mar 20, 2025 23:19

@Grim don't use splat, it's damaging to hair

Mar 21, 2025 00:11

A man once sought some "rizz" to charm,
To weave his words, like spells, disarm.
But deep inside, a sigh he'd heave,
For wit alone won’t love achieve.

He longed for bonds both real and true,
Not games or lines to misconstrue.
Yet in this world of fleeting trends,
He found himself at love's dead ends.

The lesson hid in his dismay:
Be true to you, and love will stay.

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Mar 21, 2025 03:42

Damn bro that's deep

Mercurius Mesmerize

Mar 21, 2025 08:54

I can see waveform carrying around a lute.