I'm intelligent, multi-talented, honest, caring, understanding, attentive, giving, active, mature, creative, reliable, communicative, and have so many other great traits that I believe make me a high value individual. I've spent so much of my life wanting to be different from everything I see and I think you'll be really glad you met me.
I am often misunderstood or misjudged simply bc I refused to ever allow "growing up" to mean conforming to societal standards. I am truly independent in thought and intricate in moral. This is a standard that I've been following my whole life. Getting to know me requires an open mindset and a desire for something different.
I'm an in person kind of guy. I treat my phone like people treated flip phones in 2005. It's sometimes on me when I go out and if I'm not busy I'll answer quickly... Otherwise I'm off my phone and enjoying my life and will read/listen to my messages when I have a moment.
I have new projects every week, and I'm constantly learning new skills or hobbies. I'm also very adventurous, always trying to find a reason to go out. Even if it's just for food.
What I'm looking for:
Dating or FWB
Someone who is like me in that they're independent in thought and unapologetically themselves.
Someone who has diverse taste. Whether that be in media or hobbies.
Someone who's busy like me and has their own goals and aspirations and likes their own space and time.
Someone who doesn't care about all the crud you see in media and in online spaces.
Someone who is mature and can have a good time with my friends without it being a problem.
Someone who is healthy and wants to join me in at least some of my activities.
Someone who impresses me intellectually
Someone who is mentally strong like me and a fighter.
Someone who can communicate and prefers blunt honesty.
Overall, someone I'd be proud to call my partner or friend.
What I'm looking for with dating:
I'm looking for almost any kind of relationship, but when it comes to dating I genuinely need someone who matches my lifestyle and wants similar things out of life. I view a girlfriend as a stage in a relationship, rather than a "thing" you accomplish or have. To me dating is evaluating whether or not that person is right for me and whether or not I want to keep going on dates. The goal should eventually be marriage (or something akin). I'm not looking to waste time w someone who doesn't take it seriously. So I'm down for a casual relationship or fwb, but when it comes to a serious relationship I definitely need someone who's serious about finding a life-long partner.
What I'm not looking for:
I'm not looking to chat it up online. I am here for real in-person relationships - I'd love to set up a date and go from there.
I'm not looking for anything long distance unless there is a clear, expressed intent to meet up frequently or relocate one day.
I'm not looking to start a family. I'm fairly positive I don't want kids. I'm also very unwilling to have my own due to what's in my DNA (long story). If I were to have children I would adopt and I'm fairly certain of that.
I'm not looking to impress you with an expensive dinner or a fake pick-up line. I'd rather us just be ourselves and actually do something together (arcade, theme park, or even build something out of wood together. Doesn't matter, but actually engage).
Hard No's:
Alcohol, drug, or smoking addictions
One night stands with no connection or trust (C'mon, at least spend a couple of days getting to know me lol)
Most "woke" brainwashed beliefs
Ppl who are easily offended
Toxicity or immaturity
Unbalanced [negative or unnecessary] judgement (I think judgement is important but when and how is equally important. Seeing repeated unfair judgment is a turn off)
Regularly succumbing to societal standards
Being attached to your phone/tablet/etc
My ideal dates:
Do something together in public so we both know we're not meeting our doom and so we can have something to break the ice. Arcades, theme parks, go karting, ice skating, skiing, etc. Or do photography/woodshop/etc and complete some project together. Something engaging. Dinner is a lazy date and it's much more romantic when you know each other already and can go somewhere nice without it feeling fake. Additionally, I just wanna meet ppl to see if we like each other. I don't expect it to be mutual and I don't expect it to go further than a first day. Really. There's no risk, and that's how it should be. Internet kinda ruined that lol
My living situation:
I take care of my mother and our home. When I was 13 I met an 8yo boy who was being abused. I immediately took to caring for him without hesitation. He now lives here rent free. Both my friend and mother work most days. I do freelance IT and am spending most days working on an invention. We share a large home together. I pretty much have an entire 2000Sqft floor to myself, which is incredibly private. However it's still not ideal for first dates bc of the way my family can be sometimes. So it depends on the time, but it's a 50/50 that we'd be able to be here. But if we were here it'd probably be to snuggle and watch movies bc I've been building a theater into my bedroom or to build something together cuz honestly that sounds fun asf.
If you made it this far you must be interested lol. You're also my kind of person =)
Add me, send me a message, and be casual and confident. Don't try to hard to impress me. Just be you and set up a date. People are meant to be understood over time, not in an instant. I promise I don't bite (unless you want me to? Loll). I also promise I'm much less boring in person. I really just don't know how to text (nor how to act over text). I've given a lot of context here so I don't have to repeat this stuff over and over. I really just wanna meet ppl and find someone I think a relationship or FWB could work with.
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EDIT: After a year of multiple immensely traumatic incidents I'm putting dating on hold while I heal. Leaving this here in case there's anyone who's rly into me and wants to play the long game, but I genuinely need time after 2025. I can't even begin to explain how horrible it's been and how terribly I was treated. It was so bad my physical health declined significantly and cost me 70K in medical bills and I just can't risk my health or wealth with anyone else. Sorry =/
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