emperorroberto

Apr 27, 2025 02:09

Good to hear.I like Volkswagens,hearses and mini buses.

Grimreaper91

Apr 27, 2025 02:54

Nice emperorrobertos

TheDarkGeek

Apr 27, 2025 04:55

Glad to hear it, hope you keep this momentum man. PS: 1967 Chevy Impala matte black is my dream car.

Grimreaper91

Apr 27, 2025 05:21

The dark geek that's cool car

Ryan Razorwire

Apr 27, 2025 07:27

Pimpin out used cars is one of the best hobbies to have.

Peri Peri sauce

Apr 27, 2025 11:06

Remembering who you are, & enjoying you're own company & hobbies is important. I think It's imperative when you're in a relationship, & when your not in a relationship. It's important to not get to lost in a relationship, & remembering you & appreciating yourself.

The key is not to be codependent, or not to be to independent you're a selfish jerk. Inter-dependence, is important, taking the healthy middle ground mentally. I hope that makes sense.

Don't forget you probably have friends, family & hobbies, & social or activity groups you can join, to keep loneliness & bay, & you can practice your social skills & social relationships that way.

Unfortunately it did sound like you got yourself involved with a woman that had her own set of problems, remember peoples behaviour towards you, says more about there own demons, it's majority of the time not a reflection of you.

In life your going to come across wonderful people, & real s**t & lost people. You can't control them, what you can control is how you deal with situations. I suggest looking up what it means to be resilient in the face of adversity. Those are important skills to practice in life. We all have to learn them, some people learn them faster than others, that's another long topic. Best wishes.

I'm glad you've rediscovered your hobby, remembering who you are, & enjoying yourself, remember to keep that part of yourself & nurture it. It's what makes you, you. I'm happy your taking steps to feeling & being better. It's an ongoing process, but it gets better. If you put the work in. 😊 I really hope the best for you. Well done 😊 keep making the good choices for you within your control. Grimreaper.

Sorry this was long, but I felt it was necessary for some reason.

Best wishes again 😊

Peri Peri sauce

Apr 27, 2025 11:09

This is ruffles btw ^^ lol 😆

Midnight Ruffles

Apr 27, 2025 11:24

Me shhhh 🤫🤭

Grimreaper91

Apr 27, 2025 16:01

Thanks peri peri sauce ❤️

Jay Jay

Apr 27, 2025 16:05

... When did i subscribe to this blog...?

Grimreaper91

Apr 27, 2025 16:48

The jaypril fool what do you mean how long have I been in to hondas and acuras when got my first integra ls sedan I bought it for 300 bucks at my local Kia dealership it never gave me any problems at all it was a great car

Midnight Ruffles

Apr 27, 2025 17:07

You're welcome op 😊 this thread is about you. Hope I helped.

Can't say I'm into Honda's. I like my Japanese cars in general. I have a little Mazda 3 hatch. It's great for city parking & it's fuel efficient, reliable etc.. & gets me too & from work. I did a short little car workshop with a woman mechanic awhile ago. It was fun, but I didn't really learn enough. I'm happy being able to do the basics change the oil, change a tyre, blah blah the basics, even though I've got roadside assist cover. 😝 Still good skills to have as a contingency plan. Glad I can do that.

Maybe ill learn more car stuff Youtubing one day. I can totally see how working on cars could be fun. 😊

Jay Jay

Apr 27, 2025 17:43

Wat,

HaUNTed 1-8

Apr 28, 2025 02:11

Good on you. Mad respect for the level of detail for your car care. I am happy to have my Korean sh!tbox. its been reliable and gonna keep it going and never cheap out on my preventive maintenance.

Noctulius

Apr 29, 2025 03:58

Glad you're doing better, brosef. Been put through the ringer by lots of girls myself, it f**king hurts, so it sucks seeing someone else going through that. I think every guy here has had their heart ripped out at some point or another. Soldier on and conquer! 🤘🏻💀 I of course mean that in a very tasteful way.

Midnight Ruffles

Apr 29, 2025 04:36

Every guy?

Noctulius

Apr 29, 2025 04:42

Pretty sure every guy has to deal with that at some point in life, yes.

Midnight Ruffles

Apr 29, 2025 04:49

So do women

Noctulius

Apr 29, 2025 04:55

Even the really attractive ones with limitless options? I'm sure guys are just lining up around the corner to break their hearts for absolutely no reason.

Midnight Ruffles

Apr 29, 2025 04:57

I'm just pointing out, that's a people thing. Full stop. Not something that's exclusively happening to men.

Midnight Ruffles

Apr 29, 2025 05:00

Hmmmm I guess more context is needed. Guys probably do experience more dating problems, especially this day & age.

Noctulius

Apr 29, 2025 05:02

From what I've seen (and it's a lot) I don't think that's the case, honestly. If it is, it's usually because the girl has a complex (being attracted to what she "can't have"/unrealistic expectations and then surprised and heartbroken when she actually can't have it and it doesn't work out) or a personality disorder.

Noctulius

Apr 29, 2025 05:02

More context, yeah. What you said in your second post is true.

Midnight Ruffles

Apr 29, 2025 06:00

Hmmmm 🤔 I think there's layers of complexity, to this topic. I do agree, men & women can't have some different struggles. Especially with the initial dating stage. Especially these days, a lots changed.

I can only talk for myself, a human being. You might not recognise me. Because I don't have photos of myself, we both experienced dating a person with untreated borderline personality disorder.

According to recent statistics, men equal women with personality disorders, & mental & psychological issues. So I guess that part, is a human thing. Not exclusively gender issue.

Btw when I was single I didn't keep pursuing someone that didnt reciprocate, not that happened very often, but occasionally. My biggest concern was dating someone that had the mindset, they really wanted a healthy inter-dependant relationship.

Midnight Ruffles

Apr 29, 2025 06:00

*can

Noctulius

Apr 29, 2025 06:16

Not to threadjack Grim's post, but I'd love to hear about your experiences because it might help me put my own into perspective. And also for others put theirs into perspective!

I do recognize you because of your name on here. You were sweet to me and very friendly.

As far as men equaling women I would disagree with that as someone on the autism spectrum because women are WAY better at "masking" than us men are. Or maybe us men just don't give as much of a f**k about "fitting in". 😂

I like to throw signals at girls and sometimes I get mixed ones in return. Sometimes it's a bit hard for me to pick up on certain "social cues" especially when I was younger. But I like it a lot when a girl I'm interested in gives me lots of attention and I do look for that.

Midnight Ruffles

Apr 29, 2025 11:14

@noctulius sorry for huge delayed response, work needed my attention & Aus time difference. Yeah I don't want to threadjack grim's either.

threadjack 🤭

I try & be kind, friendly, & respectful to people. Even if we have different opinions. I think my biggest struggle is being kind to people, & recognising there another human being like me, & being able to express my opinions. It's hard to strike that balance. I guess everyone has there limit, especially when people are deliberately being antagonistic.

Hmmm you raised a good point about the difference with male & female autism. I thought maybe it had something to do with sociatal gender roles, women are encouraged to be more social in general then men, & express emotions, so maybe there's more consequences for women if they don't play that role, so
autistic women learn to mask & learn the social rules. Same with men, society encourages them to push down there emotions, & I think there not as encouraged to be as sophisticated in social settings as women overall. Maybe that's a generalisation. Maybe I'm wrong just something I've thought about.

Haha I don't think that's just an autistic thing. I've had ex's & male friends that have been really terrible at reading signals if a women is flirting with them or interested, even if it's been somewhat obvious to others around. I guess some people like to be subtle with flirting, because they feel to much humiliation & rejection is involved. If I'm interested in someone. I'll just be direct. Lol I have no issue asking people on a date. If they say no. I'm fine with that. I'm just not there cup of tea. No big deal. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Psychopatrish

Apr 29, 2025 11:46

Midnight Ruffles

Apr 29, 2025 14:43

@noctulius what in particular do you want to know about my perspective? Can you be more specific?

Midnight Ruffles

Apr 29, 2025 19:04

You know what I prefer to comment, when things arise, & I have the energy. I think my social battery is almost at empty now. Doesn't take much. Lol

Noctulius

Apr 29, 2025 22:35

@Midnight Ruffles

You summed it up well in your third paragraph in your first reply about male vs female autism! That's pretty much it, really.

I like to be direct when I like someone too, but some people really can't handle it. There was a girl at my work that I had an interest in and I told her "I like you. Do you want to hang out with me sometime?" (verbatim) and she turned me down. Which is fine, of course. I don't mind rejection if she's not into me but now she acts really weird and mostly avoids me and s**t. So I regret asking LOL.

Ahhh, alas my battery is a bit drained too. Or maybe that's just my hangover. 😆

Midnight Ruffles

Apr 30, 2025 03:35

@noctuluis oh no, yeah that's a bit awkward. I don't think it's social unacceptable to ask people out at work. I've known people that have met at work. I suppose it makes sense if you're spending a lot of time together.

Personally I've never dated anyone I've worked with. I've always thought better to not s**t where you eat. Lol but I don't want to see, or make friends with people outside of work, let alone have a relationship, that's just me personally.

It's unfortunate she has to be awkward about it. Maybe she wants some space from you for awhile, maybe she's worried about your feelings. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Rest time for me. Later