What am I looking for in a partner: My future partner should be similar to me in the ways that count (honesty, integrity, common sense, humor) and like at least some of the same things I like (we can explore the differences together). She should be looking for a one-on-one, long term committed relationship and be ready for all that entails (including the ability to work through the tough spots when they appear). She will be someone in whom I can place my trust and be my safe place to share who I am, what I think, and how I feel (and I'll be the same to her).