I am looking for a lady that has a curious and adventurous side. A best friend that wants to develop a connection first, then explore her personal thoughts and find her boundaries, and expand her comfort zone, knowing she has a partner that will support her testing those things she thought in daydreams and explore everywhere & anything, embark on new adventures.
Ideally she will be a BBW but that's not a requirement, but I am a BHM, a teddy bear. A size 14 to 18 is my Barbi. The most important thing is she wants to explore, knowing she will not be judged, but provided support and reassurance.
I have always been most interested in the person. Weight, looks, body are not unimportant, but are far less important than personality, curiosity, and willingness examine and consider new options. Focusing on and supporting the others wants and desires. Without that I would find life quite boring.
Those same standards should spill over into daily life and be a focus. Focusing on each other, each others goals, each others daily wants and needs and making sure you do what you can to make sure that happens. Being there for each other to support each other.
Its hard to explain the whole situation to someone that has never experienced it. There are discussions that most couples would never think of speaking out loud. Most go in the "No" bin in a matter of seconds. Others turn in to a great expedition into true feelings and thoughts and a great way to learn more about your best friend as well as yourself. Its the relationship others say they want, because it seems like nothing but fun, mutual support and love, however there has to be a lot of serious open communication and honest, sometimes uncomfortable discussion to maintain it. Anyone who is afraid of offending or making your partner think less of you stifels communication, and the best you can hope for is what you settle for. There has to be a ground rule that nearly anything is open to discussion. If broaching any subject you might broach would hurt the relationship, its not the relationship I would want.
I settled and was not happy. I was taught having no relationship is better than being in a bad relationship or one that does not meet your needs. I have been there too. For a time I again have settled and am not willing to any more.
