Some guys and girls are so boring. All they have to offer is d**k/pussy, good morning texts, and short boring conversation and people settle for it because they are desperate to have someone and not be alone. Life should be exciting and spontaneous and relationships should be the same way. They should bring out both party's creativity, make you both feel happy, and make positive changes in your lives. It should never be one sided, and you should never bring past negative experiences in to it. Have a clean slate with your partner. If you have been cheated on, used, beat, lied to, then make sure you don't look at the person you're with and be afraid they might do the same because there will be always be emotional boundaries that can hinder happiness that could be shared between both of you. Well that's what it has to be for me at least. Wanting to experience an exciting life together is a form of intimacy in my opinion that goes completely ignored. If you find someone like that don't run away because the feelings become intense. Run toward it and embrace it. Love is dying and I believe that's one of the biggest factors in it's demise. Be honest, loyal, and loving. If the other person isn't like that then chances are they aren't mature enough to be in a relationship in the first place. Just some thoughts.