I consider myself to be somewhat asocial. Though I have few friends, the friends I've made over the years are very special to me. Quality over quantity. It's how I roll. That said, I'm neither a leader nor a follower. If the group is doing something I like, I may tag along. If not, I'll do my own thing and be happy.
I'm a bit of an egghead. I learn for fun, be it from books or the Internet. I take great joy in learning new things, and try to learn something new each day.
Religiously I was raised non-church going Protestant, but today I am loosely a Secular Humanist, though I borrow various philosophies and ideas from different faiths. I believe people should be themselves and discover what works for them. I don't force my beliefs or ideas on others, and I am not interested in anybody who would wish to do that to me. Same goes for interests -- everybody has their own thing and as long as your thing isn't kicking down someone else's sandcastle, I think we'll get along
I am monogamous (though I'd assume that goes without saying). Not interested in hooking up or polyamory. I believe in taking it slow and being responsible, for I've known too many people who've gotten hurt both physically and mentally as a result of impulsiveness.
I work and have both long-term and short-term goals. Weighing my options, as always. Considering going back to college to get a certificate or two so that I can move on to a particular field most would probably find very boring, but I consider something I could do and have fun doing. It's important that whatever field you find yourself in works for you
Right now I'm working for a grocery store, which might not sound like much, but it's challenging my abilities enough and I work with a good crew. It's a pleasant place to work, which is good since I've worked in a few places which were...not so pleasant. It's not where I plan on being for the rest of my life, but it works for right now.
I'm good at being there for my friends when they need someone to talk to. As stated above, I value my friends and family, and I express it by listening to what they have to say. I try to do my best try to put a positive, supportive spin on things whenever I can. I'm also one of the few people that can sit still for hours at an end doing a repetitive task. It might sounds really, really *yawns* really boring, but doesn't bother me in the least and I consider it a strength.
I am also, of course, good at my hobbies. I have quite the variety of interests, some of them listed below:
Chess, Weight Lifting, Videogames, reading, Music, Gardening, Canoeing, Long Walks, Arm wrestling, Computers, Furry, Yoga/T'ai Chi, writing, meditating, music
Favorite books: Lord of the Rings, His Dark Materials, Watership Down, Plague Dogs, Felidae, The Hobbit, Planet of the Apes, H. P. Lovecraft, Through the Looking-Glass...
Movies: The Road, A Clockwork Orange, Billy Jack, Pink Floyd The Wall, The Golden Compass, Watership Down
Music: Paco De Lucia, Django Reinhardt, John McLaughlin, Jaco Pastorius, Victor Wooten, Greenday, Keller Williams, Tom Jones, Bela Fleck, Simon & Garfunkel, Trace Bundy, Al Di Meola, Yanni, Soundgarden, Phish, Eberhard Weber, Queen, d**k Dale, Leonard Cohen
Shows: The Simpsons, The Office, Two-and-a-Half Men, Family Guy, South Park, Shin Chan, King of the Hill, Beavis and Butt-head, My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic, Adventures of the Little Koala, Franklin, Kipper the Dog, David the Gnome, Grimm's Fairytale Classics, Look Around You, Robot Chicken, Kenny Vs. Spenny, Dinosaurs, Married (with Children)
You should message me if
I'm looking for someone who's comfortable with who she is, not prone to forcing her own ideas on others, relaxed but not sedentary, open to new things, and stable. The later's pretty important, as I've dated people who are unstable to the point of being unable to function during their lows in the past and that can cause problems. Ultimately it doesn't matter if you're fat or thin, practice a different faith from my own, are of a different race, or are disabled. Even an age discrepancy wouldn't bother me (though I'd be be more comfortable with someone a bit older than a bit younger). So long as you show me respect, I'm bound to show you the same. I'm pretty accepting of quirks and counter/sub-cultures.
Drama and lies are the antithesis of any good relationship, which means trust is very valuable to me. Speaking from years of experience and observation of patterns in my own relationships, I'm pretty mellow if I trust the person I'm dating or am friends with (though I'm here mostly for the former, I'll be honest).
I've got my own interests and if they're not your cup of tea, that's okay, as couples don't need to share everything. I understand that relationships are a two-way street in terms of time investment, and if I meet "the one", I am willing to invest my energy into that person. Conversely, I'm okay with being alone; of course I'd like to have somebody special in my life, but I don't NEED somebody special.
Good boundaries usually leads to good relationships. That said, please don't bother messaging if you're looking for love to fill the void, because it doesn't work that way, and that very idea, as well as people who want "love at first sight" kind of creeps me out, to be honest. I am not looking to be taken care of nor am I looking to take care of anybody; relationships for me work best when both members try to be as independent as possible. Don't message me if you're looking for arm candy, or a club or drinking buddy (don't like either, clubs I can't stand), and please don't message me if you don't have a mature outlook on relationships where you're expectations of the other person and yourself are grounded firmly in some semblance of reality. Basically, only message me if you're fer real, yo
So if any of this seems interesting to you, drop me a line. I'm a nice guy and like meeting new people. If anything develops, cool. Take everything one step at a time
