I am probably the most introverted person you will ever encounter. What comes off as shyness initially is really just the result of my hermit tendencies giving me a lack of practice and also lack of interest in small talk. I never quite mastered the art of pretending to be interested in people until I actually am. I come off as aloof and disinterested even when I'm feeling the opposite. I tend to like people quickly, or remain apathetic.
I like fantasy, science fiction, art, writing, playing and making music, trying out new foods and new recipes and hanging out with dogs and cats and most of the traditional nerdy pursuits. I prefer not to focus on such things at first. It's relatively simple to find people who also like video games or similar movies and such, and formal education levels, accolades or career success may be great on a personal level and impressive on their own but have little to do with whether I will appreciate the character of the person I am speaking to. I appreciate the attempt - and I say attempt because I realise no one can be perfect in this, but an honest effort at internal consistency and scepticism that tries to follow the truth rather than bias or political correctness.
I am not a feminist and most popular internet conceptions of feminism have reached the self-parody level of absurdity (if you know who Rebecca Watson is you'll know what I'm talking about) but I don't appreciate bizarrely anachronistic pandering about 'knowing how to treat a woman' and how much of a chivalrous gentleman you are.
I am childfree. There's nothing I'm more sure about.
I don't like drinking, and drinking to excess is a dealbreaker for me. I also don't do anything else. I have no moral objections, they're more ones compatibility and my utter boredom at any event that revolves around things and generally being put off by the cultural obsession with it.
I also don't have time for the conflation of making your life as dull and unfulfilled as possible with 'maturity', but also the obsession with having 'life experience' for the sake of having had them and elevating them to the level of profundity when they seem to be the same banalities that every young person gets up to any acting like they're life-changing. Self-awareness and being sure of who you are is very important to me. I don't really understand people for whom this is a long process rather than a basic starting point for going through life.
I still laugh, smile, relax and talk about nothing in particular, play with my crazy dogs and cats, laugh at silly penis jokes and enjoy the normal human things, but most people do to some extent and I don't see the point in mentioning them specifically, but rather identifying the prerequisites for enjoying this sort of thing in the long term with another human. I like non-contrived weirdness and benign insanity. I don't like one-liners and an attempt to completely defeat the purpose of a site such as this as a filtration system by redesign back to the banality of small-talk you'd find in a bar or club. What's the point?
Recently moved here from Ireland. Biracial though I was born and raised there and knew nothing else so it means pretty much means nothing beyond appearance (the opposite of what you probably imagine someone from Ireland to look like). I'll send a picture to anyone I'm talking to. I'm not overweight or hiding any hideous deformities and am in possession of all my limbs.
Your age is irrelevant. So is how ambitious or advanced in your career you are. It's great if you are, of course, but it means little to whether I'll be attracted to you or not. Your individual talents? Yes. Your intelligence? definitely, but some arbitrary cultural marker of success, no.
I don't respond to one-liners, or multiple-liners that manage to say precisely nothing. If that was all I needed to connect with people, I wouldn't need to join sites like this. I like long, rambling things and enjoy receiving long rambling things.
Message me if you can relate to what I wrote above and find yourself searching for people like us.
